Woman Refuses to Free Babysit on New Year’s Eve After Sister’s Last Minute Request, Sister Guilt-trips Her in Retaliation: "Family comes first"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jan 6, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. The painstakingly long holiday season is behind us, but not without some dramatic family stories and anecdotes that will last long after the holidays are over. Pettiness doesn't pause itself for Christmas or New Year's. In fact, it thrives on the forced joy, the fabrication of holiday spirit, and the imprisoned hours spent in a home with relatives you wish you didn't have to see. What else are you going to do when these random people have left your house, and your face is stuck in perpetual smile mode? How else are you going to debrief with your core family about Aunt Susan's new boyfriend, or your cousin's obvious rebellious era? 

Besides the holidays that have come and gone, there's always something to say about family. Expectations being met and unmet are just a few of the causes of disappointment and drama. A family member always wants someone to babysit their kid so they can get a break from the chaos, but is New Year's Eve the right time to ask for last minute favors? Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    "This might be the last time our friend group can get together"
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    ÷ r/AITAH ⚫4 hr. ago ZelldaJewel AITA for refusing to babysit my sister's kids on New Year's Eve?
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    So, I'm in a bit of a pickle and need some outside perspective. My sister, who is 32 (I'm 28), asked me two days ago if I could babysit her three kids on New Year's Eve. She mentioned that she and her husband haven't had a night out in ages and wanted to take this opportunity since they got a last-minute invite to a big party.
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    It's interesting that she points out the size of the party. As if the fact that it's a bigger party means it should take priority. In my opinion, it doesn't matter what your actual plans are. If you made plans to be with friends, they take precedence over a family member trying to use you last minute for their own needs. It can be a small dinner with a couple close friends, and no one has to get crazy. It matters that the sister is trying to manipulate the situation in her favor. 

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    The thing is, I already made plans weeks ago to go to a friend's. house for a small get-together. It's not a big party, but it's important to me because my friend is moving overseas soon, and this might be the last time our group will be together for a long while.
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    I told my sister I already had plans, and she got upset, saying that family should come first and that I can see my friends anytime. I feel bad because I know she and her husband really need the break, but I also don't want to cancel on my friends, especially given the circumstances.
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    If family should come first then maybe this woman should parent her own kid tonight and let her sister see her friends? Is her child not a member of her family? 

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    AITA for sticking to my plans and not babysitting her kids?
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    Turbulent Ebb5... 4h ago • NTA. Your sister left it too late to ask, you made plans. That family first crop is....cr p
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    canvasshoes2 • 3h ago NTA. Top 1% Commenter Yeah, family should come first. So why don't you come first with her? Why are her plans "worthy" and yours aren't?
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    You're not the one who had kids. That was her choice. Her choice, her consequences.
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    Hawaiianstylin808 • 3h ago • Top 5% Commenter 1. You can't see your friends anytime as one is moving oversees. 2. You had plans before she asked.
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    3. You didn't give birth to the kids. They did. They signed up for this not you. 4. You are family. Why can't you come first? 5. Stick to your plans. Enjoy your friends and happy new years! NTA.
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    United-Manner20 • 3h ago Top 1% Commenter NTA and they can do what other parents do and pay for a babysitter.
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    Etherialpothos 4h ago • NTA. That's not your responsibility. If she had asked before you had plans, sure... but no. That's not cool.
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    fartsniffingunic... • 4h ago NTA especially cuz shws obv disregarding your reason for why your friends meet up is so important. you could legit take the kids on the 1st or 2nd and they could still go out....
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    MaoMaoNeko-chi • 3h ago • They literally have over 300 days a year to ask you to babysit for a night. You had plans and told them so, but they think your priority should be THEIR children. They need some time off,
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    that's okay, but they cannot force the children on someone. NTA
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    Clean_Factor9673 • 3h ago NTA. Your sister's last minute problem.isnt your issue. She needs to find paid sitters so she has possibilities, and understand that if she wants a sitter on a peak party night, she has to plan months in advance.
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    For example, she needs to find a sitter for Valentine's day right now which may mean booking them for the evening but also paying for them to come over and be with the kids while you're home so they can get comfortable.
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    Doing this now means that come fall they may have options if they plan ahead for New Year's Eve. In no world is it reasonable to expect you to cancel plans last minute so she can go out.
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    They should reliably plan a date night once or twice a month, even if that date is dinner and grocery shopping.
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    AffectionateCab... • 3h ago • NTA. Their inability to plan is not your fault nor your responsibility. And it's not as if this is an emergency.
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    They should find a babysitter, or if they can't, well, that's the reality of parenthood.
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